According to Webster’s online dictionary the definition of comparison is, “the act or process of comparing: such as the representing of one thing or person as similar to or like another.”
Seems like a harmless act.
But it can be tricky.
What kind of self-proclaimed “blogger” would I be if I didn’t get real on here from time to time?
I am 100% guilty of comparing myself to others. This is a very dangerous game. Comparing isn’t something I find myself doing often, but when I get in it, it takes a while for me to get out of it.
I have found since I started this blog, and my shirt shop, when I am not getting the results I want I start to compare myself to others. I look at those bloggers who have thousands of followers on Instagram, work with so many different brands, collaborate, the list goes on and on. Yes I have been fortunate to open a few doors that weren’t there before but it is frustrating when I pour all my creative juices into a post that only a handful of people view. It’s hard to separate the real reason I do this, from the superficial need to have people “like” me.
Unfortunately when I get into the, “comparison hole” (as I like to call it) with my blog, it starts to spill over into other aspects of my life. I start to feel like at 36 years old I need to be more successful. Sure I have a good job, I have a wonderful husband, a nice home, but should I have a bigger home like my friend Sally? Should I have a better job like my friend Alice? Am I not trying hard enough to climb the corporate latter? It’s a never ending cycle of thoughts and eventually I convince myself I should just give up on all things I am passionate about.
So how do I get out of this horrible comparison place? I write about it. There are many posts I have written and never published because I feel like it was just me needing to get it out. However, I think this is a particular topic we are all somewhat guilty of. I could spend the rest of my life comparing myself to others and thinking I need to be where they are. Or that I will never be as “grown up” as they are. Sure it might take me a few years to get this blog, and other things in my life I am passionate about, out there but I will be damned if I am going to let anything get in the way. Sure I get into ruts, as you can see, but I also get myself out of them. This may seem harsh, and is simply my opinion, but those who spend their life comparing what they have, or don’t have, to those around them are incredibly insecure. Now I may have lost a few readers for that, and that’s ok. By disagreeing with me you are sticking to WHO YOU ARE. That is the first step to being secure in yourself as a human.
I am not perfect. I may never have a six-figure job, drive a bright shiny car, or live in a giant house. This blog may just be something my Mom, sister, husband, and handful of great friends read because they are my biggest fans, and that’s ok. I have to constantly remind myself I am doing all of this because it is what makes me happy and that has to be enough.
Now that’s not to say if Free People…..or Louis Vuitton happen to want to start sending me free stuff because they love what I write on here….I’m not going to say no. BUT if that never happens, I am ok with it. I do everything I do because it is truly what I love. For me that is enough.
Peace, Love, and BE YOU!
*Sally and Alice are not ACTUAL people I know….just names! 🙂